With Stephen

Is there an age or year of your life you would re-live?

This is a difficult question because there are many I’d like to re-live.

If I had to make a choice, I’d re-live my late 30s. I became the best version of myself during that time. It was also when I met my husband.

We’ve been together 20 years and we’ve just celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary. I would relive any year and age spent with him. Stephen truly is one of a kind!

When we were young!
Almost 20 years later

And still young!

My Favourite Non-Camping Trip

Have you ever been camping?

Camping is high on my list of favourite things to do.

Our lovely Irish weather doesn’t make things easy for us, though.

We invested in a fabulous new tent in the summer of 2023. We only got to use it once that year – in Kerry. The weather was beautiful and we had a lovely time.

Last summer, the weather was brutal and many of the campsites didn’t open for tents.

So we went wild camping one weekend to a popular place for campers called Carrowtighe. It’s basically a field of roaming sheep alongside a small sandy beach surrounded by coastal cliffs.

A scenic spot but also very windy.

My son Tommy, his fiancée Chloe, and their young daughter Sophie, came with us, and they were using our old 4-man tent.

It took a little longer than usual to erect the tents because of the wind, but we managed. I did so much bragging about our brilliant new tent; how spacious it was, easy to erect with colour-coded poles.

I had advised Tommy and Chloe that when you look after a tent well, you’ll have it for years.

We unpacked all our stuff from the cars, blew up our airbeds, organised our kitchen, and then set up our dining area on the grass between the two tents.

We had sausages, bacon, beans, eggs, bread, and tea. As I washed up, Stephen sat in his camping chair reading, and Lucy lay in her sleeping quarters (very posh tent) resting, while Tommy, Chloe, and Sophie napped in their tent.

The wind got… well, windier!

Just as I was hanging up my dinky fairy lights, I remarked to Stephen, “It’s getting fairly blustery out there.”

I no sooner had the words out of my mouth when Lucy yelled from behind me.

She was buried under the tent. I bent down and got my back under it and pushed it up into position, but the wind fought back! It was hopeless… I wasn’t strong enough.

My fairy lights dangled in Stephen’s face threatening to strangle him as he rushed to the rescue.

He urged Lucy and me to get out. I pulled her free from the wreckage and crawled out into the fierce wind, leaving my brave husband behind.

I called my son for help. He poked his sleepy head from the flap of the perfectly stable tent I had regrettably cast aside for the fancier model.

Our old reliable tent in Carrowtighe!

“We need help. We’re down. Quickly… Stephen is trapped.”

Stephen was saved from the smothering ensemble, but there was no saving our beautiful 8-man luxury ‘robust’ tent. Bent and broken poles meant we had no choice but to take it down and pack up.

However… we did see the funny side of it! We laughed so much the whole way home.

We cooked marshmallows at our table later that evening. We took photos of them and posted them on Instagram. We just weren’t ready to tell everyone about our failed camping trip!


A Break From my Break

Daily writing prompt
Do you need a break? From what?

Every time I am asked this question, I give the same answer; social media.

It’s not as if I spend an odious (now there’s a word I haven’t used in years) amount of time scrolling on social media, but I still find it draining and distracting. I’d rather spend my precious time writing than spend it on SM.

However, as a writer who has stories to promote, I need to be active on social media. I just wish I could get the balance right. At the moment, I’m hardly on it at all – the short break I took from it has turned into a very long break!

Maybe that’s what I need a break from… my social media break!

All advice welcome!

Ham in Coca-Cola

Daily writing prompt
Do you or your family make any special dishes for the holidays?

Our Christmas eats are the typical traditional foods you’d see in most Irish homes around Christmas. Roast turkey and baked ham with sage and onion stuffing. Potatoes (naturally), carrots and brussel sprouts. A few peas thrown in, maybe!

I’ve experimented down through the years with the sprouts but I’ve gone back to the old way of steaming them because I’ve learned that the people who don’t like Brussels sprouts won’t eat them no matter how they’re cooked.

I’ve also stopped with all the fancy ‘extras’ — no one wants it. They just want the traditional Christmas spread! So, why complicate things for myself?

For the last few years, I’ve cooked the ham in Coca-Cola. The gravy from the ham-boiled coke is the best ever! My son did it this way last Christmas but unfortunately, he overdone the cloves and the result was strong clove-flavoured gravy. God love him!

Dessert is plum pudding. I make my own every year. I don’t follow the same recipe every time but always similar — not too rich.

Some in our house like custard and fresh cream poured over their plum pudding. I take mine with Bailey’s fresh cream.

You can’t finish Christmas Day without the evening-time turkey and ham sandwiches. For some people, this is even better than the dinner! They’re the best sandwiches you’ll ever eat!

What’s your favourite Christmas food?

Thank you for reading!

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